We often let our careers define us. If we are successful at our job, we feel successful as a person. The problem is that we cannot control every situation. We can bring talent and skill to a workplace, but the place where we work can have a negative culture. It is important to know who we are and not be shaken in our confidence.
“There is no such thing as failure. Failure is just life trying to move us in another direction”. – Oprah
From every experience, we learn something. You can view events as failures, or you can take the good from them and move on. Sometimes the thing that we are trying to do is not meant to be. We get stuck in bad situations because we do not have the courage to change the circumstance. If we do not take action, eventually, life will push us to move. Often we find ourselves in an even better situation.
“The difference between successful people and others is how long they spend time feeling sorry for themselves”. – Barbara Corcoran
This advice compliments Oprah’s advice. When something does happen, for instance, you get fired from your job, or you do not get hired, you shouldn’t take too long to mourn. Use your time to improve your marketable skills, to network, and to keep searching for employment opportunities.
“You can learn a lot from criticism, if you can take what’s constructive out of it”. – Blake Lively
“Sometimes you can’t see yourself clearly until you see yourself through the eyes of others” – Ellen DeGeneres
These quotes are more in the vein of learning from failure. Criticism can feel like defeat, but doesn’t have to paralyze you. Think about how often celebrities are ridiculed and battered by the public. Yet, they move on to the next project and keep their heads up.
Balancing Your Career with Your Personal Life
Part of being successful in life is keeping things in perspective. Many people talk about maintaining a balance. This can be achieved through spirituality and/or through identifying priorities and values. As they say, you cannot take your money with you when you die. Ultimately life is about the journey.
"I visualize what I want through meditation. The process of meditating is a great way of making sure I have my priorities sorted. It’s not about money - I focus on my career and the kind of film projects I want to do. Film-making is a passion for me, and my mantra is that you should do what you love, and the money will follow". – Shilpa Shetty
“Imagine choosing a job not on money or even on career advancement, but as part of a life worth living”. - Dale Dauten
“I always pray for God’s guidance in my life and he always provides it. He opens the right doors he shuts the right doors. And I have tremendous faith in him. He just guided my career in an amazing way”. – Ben Carson
“Injury in general teaches you to appreciate every moment. I’ve had my share of injuries throughout my career. It’s humbling. It gives you perspective. No matter how many times I’ve been hurt, I’ve learned from that injury and come back even more humble”. –Troy Polamalu
If you are just choosing your career, seek out advice from wise people. The things that you can learn are invaluable. People who have had a long, successful career undoubtedly have learned a lot about communication, getting along with others, navigating around personalities, office politics, balancing life and career, dealing with unscrupulous co-workers and more.